Next to the relationship you have with yourself, the person you choose to share your life with is the most important relationship you will ever experience in your life. With a divorce rate well over 50% (and we're seeing as much as a 34% increase since the start of 2020) we wanted to take some time to talk about WHY and HOW you should invest in your marriage (or other serious romantic relationships).
“A good marriage is one where each partner secretly suspects they got the better deal” — Unknown
WHY DAILY?
In short... because small actions add up to big transformations! If you haven't read 'The 5 Love Languages' by Gary Chapman you should. If you have read it, you will know that each interaction we have with our spouse either makes a deposit, or a withdrawal from the love account. By focusing daily on investing in our marriage, we are focusing on making deposits. This builds up our love account so that when something negative effects our relationship and makes that withdrawal, we aren't going into overdraft.
HOW?
Find out what your spouse's love language is and serve them in a language that speaks to their heart.
Spend time doing activities that make you laugh. This produces endorphins which not only makes you both feel better but bonds you.
Watch a scary movie! For real. Being scared produces endorphins too. On our first date, Jason and I went to see a B-rated horror movie which, as cheesy as it was, gave Jason the organic opportunity to get closer to me ;)
Learn a new skill, or go somewhere new together.
Spend time talking about your hopes and dreams. Plan out the next quarter or year of things you want to achieve together. Creating the opportunity to work as a team will help unify you as a couple.
Do you have any other ideas, tips, or tricks to help invest in your relationships?
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